Jack Lombardi of the online dating platform Meetpositives.com (MP) has issued some useful dating tips and guidance to those who are diagnosed with herpes.
“Any medical condition, regardless of being STD or not, should not hinder someone in finding intimate and sexual relationships. Through our website, people who share similar conditions will be able to find love and support from our growing online community,” says Lombardi.
Herpes is extremely common, more so than most people think. According to recent studies, 1 out of 5 people or at least 20% of the population were affected by it. “People can be quite cruel and judgmental to someone after a herpes diagnosis. However, it is very important to make your significant other aware of your condition as early as possible to not worsen your relationship with them,” he added.
Dating with herpes can be very stressful. One can expect a lot of rejection from people who do not truly understand the disease. However, according to Lombardi, one should disclose his or her diagnosis to their partners as soon as possible. It is also very important to be well-informed about the condition so that when questions are asked, supporting answers can be given right away. It is recommended to regularly visit a doctor and watch herpes info videos on the internet to know more of the disease. Most importantly, before becoming sexually intimate with someone, it is very critical to become aware of relevant precautionary measures to reduce the risk of herpes transmission.
“Never ever disclose your medical condition after you’ve had sex with your partner. This will appear to be an utter betrayal and will absolutely break a budding relationship,” says Lombardi. On the other hand, it is also not necessary to disclose it during the first date. One should find the best timing to discuss his or her medical condition in private and be totally honest about it. When couples have the “talk”, it’s best to be straightforward. “If someone truly cares about you, people will listen long enough and they will try to understand your situation. However, you also need to give them space if needed, for them to re-evaluate your relationship,” he added.
Discussing someone’s herpes diagnosis is absolutely the hardest part. From there, it becomes a lot easier. On the other hand, couples are still strongly advised to practice safe sex all the time to reduce the risk of transmission. The use of condoms consistently, even during oral sex, can make sexual intercourse a lot safer. Antiviral medications are also available to reduce outbreaks. Hence, it will also reduce the possibility of passing the infection.
“Your disease should not define you for it isn’t who you are. Herpes is just another variable in the equation. Open communication, loyalty, patience and honesty are the most important things in a relationship. People date not just for sex. They date because they are looking for someone who are dependable, caring and funny. We are looking for someone whom we can can probably spend the rest of our lives with,” says Lombardi.
MP is a great platform that offers secured and anonymous herpes dating service. They also connect people who have other medical diagnoses such as HIV, HPV and Hepatitis. It is a great website that connects people who share similar conditions and can give moral support to one another.
Members can also share their own inspirational stories on how they are battling herpes as well as discrimination from others.
One user said, “I know this statement is a bit confusing because every piece of advice you get will direct you to be positive. This is not the positivity I am talking about; I am talking about the infection. Though your body is infected, the infection should not get to your head. I also learned that stress can trigger the outbreaks. This is why I say that your mind should be negative though your body is positive. You should not let the infection affect your mind as this will only make the situation worse. Accept that you have the infection and move on and this will help in reducing the outbreaks to almost zero levels and let you get back to your normal life.”
For those who want to join the online dating platform, users may visit meetpositives.com for additional information. Interested parties may also download their app from the Apple Store and Google Play Store. They are also encouraged to visit MP’s herpes info channel on Youtube to be updated with their latest news and announcements.
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